Jilted bride decides to go ahead with her wedding without the groom after he doesn’t show up
A confused bride decided to go ahead with her wedding without the groom when he didn’t show up.
Kayley Stead, 27, discovered she wasn’t going to marry her partner of almost four years. The morning she did.
Despite the heartbreak, Kayley decided to go ahead with the big day, surrounded by her loved ones, on September 15 at the Oxwich Bay Hotel in Gower, Swansea, Wales. p>
Kayley went ahead with the wedding entrance, meal, speeches, dances and even posed for professional photos without the groom.
She entered the party and sang along with Lizzo’s “Good as Hell” with her bridal party.
Brave Kayley knocked off the topper on her wedding cake, spending her first dance with her groomsmen, her brothers and dad Brian, 71.
Now living alone, with her honeymoon cancelled, Kayley is glad she still had the party – so money and effort weren’t wasted.
Her friends have rallied around her, barely leaving her side and setting up a GoFundMe page to try to recoup some costs.
Insurance secretary Kayley, who lives in Portmead, Swansea, Wales, said: “I saw the groom at around 4pm the day before the wedding and I haven’t heard from him since.
“We’ve tried to reach out to him, but I’ve had no response from him, no reason why. I’ve had no explanation – not that I want one now, because it’s too far down the road.
“It was an absolute shock, I had no indication he would do this, but seeing my girls distraught also made me want to turn the day around.
“I didn’t want to remember the day as complete sadness.
“All day we were saying it felt like an episode of Hollyoaks or EastEnders. It didn’t feel like a real situation.
“There were so many special moments, like my wedding entrance, the sparkler walk, the first dance and cutting the wedding cake – so there was still happiness on the day.
“I’d spent all this money, I’d been looking forward to the food, a dance with my dad, spending time with my family, so why not?”
Kayley and her ex started dating in December 2018 and got engaged when he proposed in August 2020.
The night before the wedding, Kayley stayed in an AirBnB and celebrated with her bridesmaids while the groom and his groomsmen stayed in a caravan near the venue.
Kayley said: “The groom and I had already agreed not to talk the night before the wedding anyway, so I didn’t know what was going on on his side, I didn’t have a clue.
“I was in complete bliss—bliss unknown.”
The suitors contacted the bridal party to tell them he had left, she claims.
Kayley said: “We woke up at quarter past six when the make-up artist arrived, had breakfast together and then started getting ready.
“One of the groomsmen contacted my best friend to say the groom was gone and the bridal party hid my phone so they could decide the best way to tell me and I didn’t want to find out from anyone else.
“They wanted to make sure he was definitely gone before I panicked.
“I found my phone and saw I had a missed call from his mom. I called her back and she was crying and told me he had gone for a drive early in the morning and he was gone.
“At that point I wasn’t nervous, I was still quite hopeful as throughout our relationship he had sometimes gone for a walk or a drive to clear his head when he was nervous.
“For a couple of hours, I said he was going to be there, and I reassured the girls. I honestly, with my hand on my heart, thought he was going to be there.
“I told the girls, his family and the groomsmen to keep getting ready because I honestly thought he was going to be there.”
At 11am, Kayley had just sat down to get her hair done when she spoke to the groom’s father on the phone.
She claims he told her her partner would not be attending the wedding.
Kayley said: “At that point I was gone. I was sobbing.
“Once I told my parents, the hairdresser and the videographer, that’s when I had to tell myself it wasn’t going to happen.
“As a joke, the videographer said, ‘Why don’t you girls keep going? You’ve spent all this money, you’re not getting it back, all your guests are there, why don’t you just leave?’
“My sister was redoing my makeup, because at that point was just gone, and she said, ‘Why don’t you do it, Kayley?’
“That’s when I thought I should do it. I’d spent all this money, I’d been looking forward to the food, a dance with my dad, spending time with my family, so why not?”
The two wedding parties entered the ceremony room together and told guests what had happened before asking them to go out to the garden to meet Kayley instead.
Kayley said: “I didn’t want to see the ceremony room – I’ve never seen what it looked like.< /p>
“When my sister and best friend explained what had happened to the guests, everyone cried because they had been looking forward to that day.
“I asked for 10 minutes to myself before I saw my guests and instead of walking down the aisle, I walked around the corner in my dress and made everyone look at me.
“No one knew what to do, I think they were a little afraid to say anything, and then everyone just started cheering and hugging me.”
All the bridesmaids stayed, as well as all her friends, family and loved ones.
< p>With their support, Kayley continued with the day she had planned without her groom and made changes throughout to turn a devastating day into a beautiful one.
Instead of the traditional bride and groom entrance, Kayley was joined by groomsmen and bridesmaids as they sang and danced along to Lizzo’s “Good as Hell” on their way to the top table.
She said: “We just did things, really. It was all based on instinct and we just went with it.
“I still wanted pictures because all the groomsmen and bridesmaids looked absolutely incredible and I wanted them to have their pictures like they normally would.
“The photographer also took a picture of me in my dress in the garden and then we took family pictures and bridesmaid pictures instead of the bride and groom.
“You can probably see some tear streaks down my face, but I love the pictures.
“I never intended to give a speech, but I wanted to thank everyone for staying, because they didn’t have to. It was a very difficult situation for them to be in, but they all stayed.
“I wanted to make sure everyone knew it wasn’t about the sad, we were going to power through this.< /p>
“Everyone said sorry to me but I wanted it to stop – they hadn’t chosen that path, they had chosen to stay, so let’s celebrate it.”
photo booth had originally displayed “Mr and Mrs” with what would have been the couple’s married names, but was quickly replaced with a sign reading “Kayley’s Shindig”.
Instead of sharing her first dance with the groom, Kayley instead danced with her father, brothers and groomsmen to “Love You To The Moon and Back” by Dolly Parton.
Kayley said: “I had always dreamed of dancing with my dad at my wedding.
“He’s 71 and I’ve always been afraid he and my mum, Dee, 63, wouldn’t be at my wedding so I’ve always wanted to dance with him.
“My four brothers and groomsmen joined because I wanted to thank them for staying.
“They didn’t run away, and I would have totally understood if they did, but they were on me all day.”
Instead of walking through the sparkler tunnel with her groom, Kayley went through alone and partied the night away with her guests before spending the night in the bridal suite with her bridesmaid and one of her best friends.
Kayley is now adjusting to a newly single life without her groom and will not be honeymooning in Turkey.
She has packed up her ex’s belongings from her home and left them with the family without any word or explanation from him, she claims.
Kayley said: “My best friends haven’t left my side since, they slept in the room with me so I wasn’t alone as it was a strange place to be in without seeing all his stuff.
“I don’t believe in fighting fire with fire, I’d rather just deal with the situation as best I can and keep my head up.
< p>“I don’t want anyone to think I gave him a reason to leave me because I had no inclination before for him to do this.
“I had no idea, no signal. He showed me no reason why he would leave me that day.
“A couple of days before we were going out for dinner, he was talking about the honeymoon and he bought me a book last Christmas with a million reasons why he loved me inside, all handwritten with our special moments.
“After I found out he wasn’t coming to the wedding, I decided I didn’t want to. remember the day as utter sadness.
“There were so many special moments, like my wedding entrance, the sparkler walk, the first dance and cutting the wedding cake. There was still happiness in the day.”< /p>
Since the wedding, Kayley’s friends have set up a GoFundMe page to try to help Kayley get some money back after she spent her life savings on the day.
Kayley’s best friend and housekeeper Jordie Cullen, 27, who set up the GoFundMe page, said: “Kayley has a heart of gold and would do anything for anyone.
“She didn’t deserve to be abandoned the morning she was abandoned. wedding day with no ex planation and zero contact from the groom.
“We are now asking you to help us pick up our girl, dust her off and move on.
“As her best friends and family, we want to help build a fresh start for her where she never has to suffer financially in the wake of this ordeal.”
The groom has refused to comment.